Are you aware?

Most of us can probably admit that the feeling of being in control is an empowering feeling, right?

But the word “control”  has many different meanings to different people and different situations.  So, let’s get on the same page.  We’re talking about self defense and for the sake of this blog, I’m using the definition of control below:

con·trol noun /kənˈtrōl/ The power to influence or direct people’s behavior or the course of events.

Self defense is not a physiological aid to build self esteem or personal empowerment, and it’s certainly not you answer to physically controlling another person.  In my option, self defense is about being aware so that you can avoid conflict.  Let’s be honest, if a situation has gotten to the point where it is becoming physically violent, then it has gotten way out of hand.

I’m quite skilled at boxing and kick-boxing.  I’ve taken martial arts; I have experience in defensive handgun and rifle tactics and conflict resolution.  It’s all fantastic knowledge.  It’s also knowledge that can get me killed.  Would I fight for my life? Absolutely!   But only after all else has failed.  I am fast, strong, and well skilled, but I’m also smart enough to know that I cannot go toe-to-toe with an attacker.

I educate myself on self defense tactics and conflict resolution and I encourage women to take self defense courses for one reason.  AWARENESS.  Learn the skills to get away.  If you can get away, you can save your life.

You’re best defense is to look at your lifestyle, figure out what kind of threats you are most likely to face, and implement strategies that reduce the chances of them happening.

I watch women coming in and out of the clubs late at night who are oblivious to their surroundings.  I’m asking you to be aware.  Know how to react and be in charge of your own safety.  What do I mean?  Your 4 inch stilettos are gorgeous! Can you run in them?   You didn’t want to pay for valet, so you parked three lots away in a dark, unattended lot.  Is it worth the risk?  You’re walking and texting.  A man has been following you.  Your distracted with your phone  that have not even noticed.  Put down your iphone and pay attention!

Don’t be the next easy target.  Be aware. Be safe.

“The power to influence or direct people’s behavior” comes from your own personal awareness.  Control the situation before it happens.  Here are some tips:

•  Awareness: Your first line of defense. Most women think of kicks to the groin when they hear the term “self defense.” However, true self defense begins long before physical contact.  Be awareness of yourself, your surroundings, and your potential attacker’s likely strategies. The attacker’s primary strategy is to use the element of surprise. Criminals choose targets that appear to be unaware of what is going on around them.  Don’t give them that advantage!
• Use your sixth sense. “Gut instinct.”  Your intuition is a powerful subconscious insight into situations and people. All of us, especially women, have this gift.  Pay attention to it.  Avoid a person or a situation which does not “feel” safe.  You’re probably right.
• Self-defense training. It is important to evaluate the goals and practical usefulness of a women’s self defense program before signing up. The self defense program should include simulated assaults, with a fully padded instructor.  They should drill you on realistic attack scenarios and allow you to practice what you’ve learned.  I love the program offered by Reaction Cycle Concepts.  Tell them Jen sent you.   www.reactioncycle.com
• Escape:  Do whatever it takes to escape.   An attacker demands that you go with him– in a car, alley, or building and it seems like you should obey.  NO!  Never leave with anyone.  You are  more likely to be killed, raped or seriously injured if you go with the predator. Run away, yell for help–do whatever you can to attract attention.  
• Your right to fight. Unfortunately, no matter how diligently we practice awareness and avoidance techniques, we may find ourselves in a physical confrontation. Defend yourself.  Use the element of surprise to your advantage–strike quickly and with the purpose of getting away.  You may only get one chance.  Use your your survival skills  and do what it takes to escape.
• Home invasions: A crime on the rise. The primary way to prevent a home invasion is simply to never, ever open your door unless you either are certain you know who’s on the other side.